Engineering Optimism
By Kari Wilhelm
Do you ever focus so much on what could go wrong that you overlook all the signs things are actually going well? In tech, our jobs often require us to anticipate failure. But we also need the ability to see where things could succeed — it’s key to thinking big and achieving great things.
I was reminded of this while mentoring someone recently. They assumed they were underperforming, and asked their manager for feedback expecting bad news, only to discover they were on track for a path to Principal Engineer. Yet, despite this positive feedback, they couldn’t shake the feeling that something must be wrong. Sound familiar? I know I’ve caught myself doing this. When that happens, I like to try intentional optimism. Being reflective and self-aware is essential for growth, but so is believing in success. When there’s no data to suggest things aren’t going well, why not lean into the idea that they are?
Three Situations for Intentional Optimism
Here are three situations where intentionally activating optimism can create a powerful shift in your mindset:
- When you receive positive feedback: Whether it’s from your manager or peers, believe the feedback — especially from those you trust. Believe it when they tell you you’re doing great, especially if they can tell you why. If you choose not to, remember you’re choosing to not trust their judgment.
- When factors outside your control could go either way: If you’ve done all you can to address what you can influence, worrying about the rest is usually pointless. Instead, choose to believe things will go your way.
- When things are going well, and there are no red flags: In the absence of negative signs, worrying is wasted energy. Enjoy the moment, trust the positive direction, and stay aware of any changes while recognizing the progress already made.
The more often you hold on to that optimistic mindset, the easier it becomes to return to it next time, and the more space you create for learning and creativity.